Today was a rough day for the daughter. A little too much peer pressure led to some bad decision making (and then the "getting caught" part of the scenario), she's had a major change at school, and homework looked overwhelming. All of this came together in the perfect storm, leading to tears of frustration and a sense of "I can't do it all!"
Sadly, up until recently, this was the same type of thinking and behavior I had modeled for her.
Happily, it is changing.
Tonight, instead of getting upset or frustrated myself, I was able to simply be with her in support. When she began to spiral up, feeling overwhelmed and over-emotional, I was able to hold her, calm her, and help her take things just one step at a time. Now she is confidently moving through her work, asking questions when necessary, then returning back to her independence.
This the type of mindset and behavior I am modeling more and more these days.
This is a legacy I can be proud of.