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Saturday, March 31, 2012

Two of two

New goal: Learn how to acknowledge, accept, and release being sad for no reason.

It's scary as hell, that sadness, as it lays itself over me like a wet wool blanket. I can feel myself underneath it, but I can't pull myself out. The more I struggle against it to escape, the more tangled in it I become. I just end up more exhausted and more miserable than I started (and that's sayin' somethin'!). So now I will strive to try something new.

Surviving SFNR (sadness for no reason) in four easy steps:

1) Determine if there really IS a reason. If so, face it and deal with it (see "New Year's Resolutions"). If not, proceed to step two.

2) Accept that you're sad. State it aloud, if necessary. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to someone else you love. Let yourself know that it's ok to be sad. You're not crazy and it WILL pass.

3) Find a safe and supportive environment...and cry. (Partners' arms are great for this.). Do everything in your power to not question, not fret, and not judge. Just let it be, and let it flow through you.

4) Rest. You were probably tired to begin with (being unrested is the leading cause of SFNR), and you are now undoubtedly completely exhausted. Repeat step two, then put yourself to bed.

If all of the above steps are followed, you are almost guaranteed to feel like a new person in the morning.

1 comment:

  1. I've observed that in contemporary US culture, we tend to reject sadness instead of just letting it be for awhile.